I should start from the beginning. I hate the phrase “modest is hottest.” I’ve hated it for awhile but wasn’t really sure why exactly…until recently. Allow me to share!

1. Modest is hottest…really? If a girl has been in our ministries long enough they have heard someone mention pornography and how every guy battles it. Porn is visual. It is a distorted visual and a broken one. At the heart of it, porn is about exposing woman and defining what is hot. I believe most girls are asking, is really modesty really the hottest… and if that’s true than why are guys so drawn to visuals that are less than modest. Really at some level the statement isn’t believable.

2. Modest is hottest…why hot? This one is the big one for me. Why is hot the goal? Why are we selling girls short and asking them to be just hot. Why are we encouraging the same goal as the world. It’s shallow and limited. Focusing on the physical keeps us from what is really important…the heart. Do you know how much girls care about their physical appearance? Studies show that girls care more about being pretty than they do about the world ending or their parents getting cancer. Their appearance literally consumes them. So why is the church offering them the same goal. Modest isn’t hottest…maybe it’s the holiest or maybe our modesty reflects our heart…but it isn’t or it never has been about being the hottest.

I am sure there are plenty of other confusing statements that we say…but the more we get to know about our girls and their world, the better we can help them understand God’s truth for their lives!

What are some other confusing things that we say? Let’s chat about them!