(Photo from PostSecret)
This PostSecret caught my attention this past Sunday.
In certain circles of the Church there is a conversation that is happening about men and women. Unfortunately, this conversation has been prone to go negative. The reason this is a problem is the impact it is having on the younger generations in the church. Students aren’t always able to disconnect the issue from the negativity. In fact, they can be drawn to the negativity as the truth of the conversation.
Young guys treating girls and woman as less than…the men and guys in their life.
To me…this is unacceptable.
We must train up guys to treat girls and woman as partners and as equals.
Here’s a few thoughts:
Watch our words. When we talk about the opposite sex…let’s keep it positive. And let’s not stop at positive, let’s speak about their potential and about their gifts. We are partners. Make sure our words match that belief.
Model it. Model equal respect. A little pet peeve of mine is when I’ve attended some amazing conferences and I’ve watched the body language change in the crowd when a woman takes the stage to speak. Our students see that body language…model respect.
Teach it. Once or twice a year we should be talking about how to interact with the opposite sex. Girls are not an end to a means. Girls are not a thing to possess. When we teach our young men about how to treat a girl, it should not be with a wife in mind but with a fellow Christ follower in mind. We are co-conspirators in this life and journey.
I hope that every girl that walks into our churches feels respected and valued for who she is not what she offers the opposite sex. Our churches should be a better place than the bar.
What do you think? How do we train them up?